“In the depth of winter; I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer”
I really like to help develop the concept with students, adults, and myself of self awareness through a process of checking in with ones self. That important swing inward to ask “Where do I stand on this topic?” is an important skill to developing a good relationship with yourself.
“Our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake ourselves.” -Gandhi
We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us. We always have this choice. ~ Pema Chodron
Maintaining a good relationship with yourself is no different than maintaining a good relationship with a partner, a friend, or a family member. All relationships take time, effort, and good communication. Could it be that you have lost communication with yourself? Poor communication with yourself can lead to the perception that you have abandoned yourself. It can lead to a distorted perception of other relationships in your life.
Developing Self Talk
Self-talk can have a really great impact on your self-esteem and confidence. There is positive and negative self-talk and they both have an impact on how you feel. There are a few ways you can develop better self-talk including just listening to what you’re saying to yourself each day. It’s worth practicing self-talk as feeling good about yourself is worth the effort.
Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) has the concept of Wise Mind which can be a helpful tool in understanding what a inner dialog should touch upon. Finding The Balance in Opposing Forces: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy